My assignment for this next week is to figure out what friendship looks like to me.

I find some people are content to have friends that they get together with a few times a year while others have friends where they are always doing things with.

I think I might fall somewhere in between. I will be thinking seriously about this.

I think as parents we tell our children to be friends with everyone but I heard friendship takes work and while you can be friendly to a lot of people it would be hard to be friends with everyone.

Wow–it has been awhile since I was last on here. It is funy when you read things you have written and try to think why did I write that? Then you remrnber why. Things have change since my last post and I am trying to figure out why?  Some times change is good and sometimes ita a little sad.

Thank you to all of you who visited my site and made comments on my post about lying. I found them both interesting and for the most part how I view lying.

I know for me I can not even tell what some may call a little white lie and not feel terrible about it and convicted by God.Even if I think it was in a person best interest I could not do it because it will not be in my best interest.

You see I have done that once—everyone told me what to tell our daughter about why she was moving out. What we told her was not a lie but what we also told her was. It was both the truth and a lie. I have beaten myself up about  this and wanted to go to her and tell her the whole truth but being she has autism I was told it would make matters worse.

So I feel it is wrong to tell a lie no matter what.

Is it ever right to tell a lie? Is there ever a circumstance that you can think of that will justify you telling a lie?

I am sure you heard the phrase It was just a little white lie—what is that anyway?

Is telling partial truths the same thing as lying?

Is a lie a lie and always a sin?  Was Rahab wrong for lying to protect the the two spies?

I am interested in your views on this. Lying is something that really bothers me.

I think that is because I have trust issues because of being lied to so many times.

Someone told me this story:

I am walking up a hill with my wagon and in the wagon are bricks of all my worries bit along the way I start picking up others bricks taking on their worries and I allow others to put their bricks in my wagon as well. I could not pull my wagon anymore—-I ask God why I could not make it to the top of the hill. He reminded me that if I did not take on others worries than I could make it. I need to take their bricks out of my wagon to make it lighter.

I have decided I no longer can be concern with people who want me as a casual friend. Someone who is always here when they need me but will in a instant run in someone better comes along and wants to spend time with them.Just because I might not say anything does not mean I am not hurting. I am deeply.

If you are treating someone this way please understand you are hurting them and you might not know it.

I really do not like those two words together. BEST FRIENDS.     

Moving so much growing up did not give me a chance to establish true friends let alone a best friend.

Everything we have been through the last 21 years has not given me much of a chance to do it either.

So it is no wonder I struggle in this area.

Last night Mike read from the daily bread and the subject was you got it Best Friends. The author use David and Jonathan of course.

He describe a friend this way– Friends listen to our heartaches without blaming us for having problems.They defend us when we are under attack–They are happy when we succeed and sad when we fail,  They give us wise counsel to keep us from making foolish choices They even risk making us angry for the sake of making us right.

Meadows wrote the poem for this page

I do not ask for many friends,

But give me Lord the few

Whose loyalty and faithfulness

Are first of all to You.

True friends are like diamonds–precious and rare.

If you have a few friends like this be so very thankful because there are those of us who struggle to find such friendship.

Have any of you read Psalm 55? If you have you would see David was struggling with the betrayal of a friend not just any friend but a close friend –one who he had close fellowship with.

Several years ago I was reading this Psalm and I could relate to David.

Can you relate to this?

Is there someone you thought was a very close friend you felt had betrayed you?

I think there are times people start out trying to help someone but somewhere along the line they get off tract and it ends up becoming gossiping about that person.I think there heart was in the right place but we are humans and we are not perfect.

I think all of us me included needs to stop and look into our hearts and see if what we are doing is really helpful or has it become more than that.

Good Afternoon,

I am at the library on their computer since my is gettinh worked on. I miss not having it but then I think it is good to have a break from it too.

Tomorrow Mike and I will celerbrate 27 years of marriage. It has not always been easy but God has seen us through so much.