April 11, 2007

  • Advice

    Dear Friends,

    I need some advice. Most people have really helpful to us but there are a few who gets upset if we do not take their advice that we have not ask for. They keep pushing me to do things I am not comfortable with or things I am not ready to do or things I have a strong conviction about. They are christians. I just found out one person went to another person about me. I am just beginning to take a wall down that I have built to prevent myself from being hurt but I am beginning to wish I had not let people in. Right now I can not take this.

    Elisa is home. Yesterday was really hard.

    Thanks and have a good day,

    Trina

Comments (8)

  • ((Trina)), Back in Feb. or so, I was thinking about "advice" and I realized that no one should give advice UNLESS they have walked in another's shoes. Everyone can say what they "would do", but no one knows for sure unless they walked that road. You just keep doing what your heart tells you to do, sweetie, where God leads you. He's the ONLY one that would/could never lead you astray. I love you sis!
    Cheryl

  • I agree with Cheryl.

    Don't let these people take charge of your life. When people offer you unsolicited advice, it's perfectly okay to tell them "thanks for sharing your opinion with me. I don't know if I'll do as you suggested, but I know you care or you wouldn't tell me."

    As for gossip (which is what talking to another person about how you don't take advice is), you don't have to put up with that, either.

    You can do it. Remember, we are strong in Christ. God will lead you and help you discern which advice to follow.

  • I don't think it's a very Christian behavior to gossip behind peoples' backs.  I so wish you had more support!  If you feel uncomfortable with someone and/or their suggestions, I think you should back away a little bit.  You don't have time for frivolous friendships right now.

    I guess we shouldn't send Elisa postcards now, huh?

  • I also agree with Cheryl, You need to do what You & Mike think is right,  as for the "gossip part" that has NO place in a Christian life, that upsets me,

    I am praying for all of you, and I know your upset and rightly so, The Lord will lead you, and take care of all of You,

    Lov you,  DianeMarie

  • I agree with all the above.   Don't let other people get you down.   You don't need this on top of everything else you have going on.

    Praying things will get better soon.........

  • I've been through a very similar situation for many, many years.  I know that people mean well when they offer me advice (and, occasionally, feel they need to "correct" me in how I handle a situation), yet, it's very hurtful.  Unless they have lived through the situation, they have no idea that their often well-meaning advice may be totally off-base.  I pray that you will stay strong and that you can - with God's grace - forgive them and move on.  I know it hurts.

  • As christians we can be the most critical of others.  It shouldn't be like that but is often the case.  I'm sorry you are having to endure it!  Sounds like some of the have issues w/ pride.  If ya don't do it their way well then they're offended.  Stick to your convictions.  The Lord gives us those for a reason!  Unsolicited but well meaning advice is a tough one!  Hang in there!  I guess you could go for the more bold approach and say:  "I don't recall asking for your advice.  But, hey-thanks but no thanks!".  I'm not that bold -but @ times I wish I were!

  • I think everybody has already said it so well. Only God and you know what is best for Elisa and what is best for your family. I continue to pray for wisdom in all the many decisions you have to make on a daily basis. I pray Proverbs 3:5-7 over you today. I pray that you will trust in the Lord with ALL your heart and that you will not lean on YOUR understanding but on God's; that you will acknowledge Him in ALL your ways; and yes, He WILL guide and make your paths clear and straight before you. Don't try to be wise in YOUR eyes -- but in God's.

    Keep your focus on God and not others or the circumstances -- but totally 100% on God. And keep pressing in to Him!!

    Debbie

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