How many of you have heard people say this about families who have a special needs child?
I do not see why they do not put them in an institution? Or you hear parents say they have tried to get help but they could not get it? If you have you are not alone.
I have just finish a Christian novel that have really bothered me because of who the author had suggested the killer was and a comment someone had about that person. I can not get that out of my mind. I wrote the author an e-mail asking her why she chose that story line.
I can answer the questions for you.
It was said of me just recently that I went scratching and screaming to the decision to place Elisa outside the home and that was a true statement and anyone who knows me knew or saw that knows that was true.
The reasons were this.
1. I AM A MOM!!!! Need I say more on that one.
2. I felt God had given her to me to take care of and that I should not let strangers do my job for me.
3. I was afraid she would get hurt
4. This is selfish but Elisa was my whole life and I was afraid of what my life would be like without her. I have live in a world filled with crisis that I did not know how to live any way else.
5. I was afraid she would hate me and I know that would hurt deeply.
Now for the other part. It is so hard to get help for our child. Some of you know the huge struggle we went through to get Elisa help. It is not as easy as people think. Even to put her in a hospital is a nightmare–I have spent nights in the waiting rooms of the ER waiting for her to get place somewhere. I think people think that all you need to do is drop your child off at a instution and they will take them but that is not true. Mike and I were told one time if we refuse to pick Elisa up we could be charged with abandament. We were told they could put her in a homeless shelter if we did not get her.
I think that is one reason I do not put much stock in movie stars telling their stories because they usually have all the money to get the needed help.
I too had wondered the same things that I started this note with but living this for over 21 years I now know the answers. You know over 85% of marriages with a child with Autism ends in divorce so you see Mike and I have been married for almost 27 years. We do not want to be part of the 85& so we are doing everything we can to make it. God has been the one to wrap His arms around us and keep us together. He has put wonderful Pastors and counselors in our lives to guide us on this journey. So many people are praying for us in so many different states.
I just felt the need to write this after I read that book.
I miss Elisa terribly but I am safe from harm and this was the hardest decision of my life.
I do not see why they do not put them in an institution? Or you hear parents say they have tried to get help but they could not get it? If you have you are not alone.
I have just finish a Christian novel that have really bothered me because of who the author had suggested the killer was and a comment someone had about that person. I can not get that out of my mind. I wrote the author an e-mail asking her why she chose that story line.
I can answer the questions for you.
It was said of me just recently that I went scratching and screaming to the decision to place Elisa outside the home and that was a true statement and anyone who knows me knew or saw that knows that was true.
The reasons were this.
1. I AM A MOM!!!! Need I say more on that one.
2. I felt God had given her to me to take care of and that I should not let strangers do my job for me.
3. I was afraid she would get hurt
4. This is selfish but Elisa was my whole life and I was afraid of what my life would be like without her. I have live in a world filled with crisis that I did not know how to live any way else.
5. I was afraid she would hate me and I know that would hurt deeply.
Now for the other part. It is so hard to get help for our child. Some of you know the huge struggle we went through to get Elisa help. It is not as easy as people think. Even to put her in a hospital is a nightmare–I have spent nights in the waiting rooms of the ER waiting for her to get place somewhere. I think people think that all you need to do is drop your child off at a instution and they will take them but that is not true. Mike and I were told one time if we refuse to pick Elisa up we could be charged with abandament. We were told they could put her in a homeless shelter if we did not get her.
I think that is one reason I do not put much stock in movie stars telling their stories because they usually have all the money to get the needed help.
I too had wondered the same things that I started this note with but living this for over 21 years I now know the answers. You know over 85% of marriages with a child with Autism ends in divorce so you see Mike and I have been married for almost 27 years. We do not want to be part of the 85& so we are doing everything we can to make it. God has been the one to wrap His arms around us and keep us together. He has put wonderful Pastors and counselors in our lives to guide us on this journey. So many people are praying for us in so many different states.
I just felt the need to write this after I read that book.
I miss Elisa terribly but I am safe from harm and this was the hardest decision of my life.
